{"id":441,"date":"2017-01-11T19:50:24","date_gmt":"2017-01-12T00:50:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.leadershipintherealworldblog.com\/?p=441"},"modified":"2017-02-12T09:10:26","modified_gmt":"2017-02-12T14:10:26","slug":"what-have-you-learned-about-conflict","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.leadershipintherealworldblog.com\/index.php\/2017\/01\/what-have-you-learned-about-conflict\/","title":{"rendered":"What Have You Learned About Conflict?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Most of us don\u2019t wake up and say, \u201cAh, I love the smell of napalm in the morning! I can\u2019t wait to get into some conflict today!\u201d<\/p>\n

Yet the PMBOK\u00ae Guide<\/em> reminds us that \u201cconflict is inevitable in a project environment.” (p 282). That\u2019s no surprise to anyone who has led project and teams nuchsyu. We know it\u2019s part of the game, and often have many war stories to prove it.<\/p>\n

Your Perspective On Conflict<\/h1>\n

We each bring our own views about conflict with us when we’re leading teams and projects. Let me ask: what comes to mind when you <\/em>hear the term conflict<\/em>?<\/p>\n

When I ask that to clients and audiences around the world, I most often hear replies such as \u201carguments\u201d, \u201cstress\u201d, or \u201cavoid!\u201d The PMBOK\u00ae Guide<\/em> acknowledges that conflict can get disruptive. It can spiral out of control. But the PMBOK\u00ae Guide<\/em> also tells us that \u201cwhen managed properly, differences of opinion can lead to increased creativity and better decision making.\u201d (p 283)<\/p>\n

Love. Hate.<\/h1>\n

So we know there\u2019s benefit to conflict but we tend to hate it. We don’t actually need to love conflict, but learning how to deal with it is critical to our ability to lead and deliver.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a brief video of one of the most important lessons I\u2019ve learned about conflict:<\/p>\n